today's stuff. and becoming my mom.

[supercheesegirl]

so the people at work are really sweet. marlene gave me a graduation card today, signed by like everyone in our department (even some people i haven't met yet). i totally didn't see her sneaking around with it, and she must've been doing the sneaking for a while--people signed the card that have been on vacation for several days. how thoughtful. i was very touched. it really isn't a bad job. and i feel like it's getting better, the better i get at knowing my way around the company systems.

in other news, the grey sky totally opened up at 4:02 pm today just as jorn was getting into my car. and it kept raining until around 7pm, when it was too late to move the rest of his stuff to the storage unit. this really blows. now instead of going in to work for the morning and making some actual money, we both have to take the morning off to finish the moving. we were taking the afternoon for my graduation anyway, so now that makes a whole day we're each missing. between us, that's a potential $164.70 before taxes. not that i'm complaining about taking off for graduation; there's some things that are more important than money. though why uncg holds its graduation on a *friday* is totally beyond me. besides which, the actual cap-n-gown graduation ceremony (which i'm skipping) is friday *morning*--how lame is that? i've been to graduations, even graduations at state schools, on friday nights, saturday mornings, saturday afternoons, and sunday afternoons, but who ever heard of a friday morning? it's another "wdp, greensboro?" moment.

i hope there's no tornadoes in tennessee tomorrow.

here's a question. you're cleaning. your partner is not; s/he is checking email or reading or something. do you a) finish the task on your own, b) finish the task on your own, then go on to another task and then another while waiting for your partner to notice and help, or c) just ask your partner to stop what they're doing and help you?

i bet y'all can guess what my answer is. i was thinking about this tonight as i read the paper and clipped the coupons and did the dishes and gathered up the recycling and took it outside, and i can see that i'm totally turning into my mother. it's just like her to do all this cleaning/cooking/whatever and *expect* you to help and not actually ask you to help or even tell you she was doing the work, and then get grumpy at you for not helping while professing to really not mind. this has driven me crazy for years; how was i supposed to know that it was my job to peel the potatoes when she never told me the potatoes needed to be peeled, even when i shouted from my comfy position on the couch to see if she needed help? and i can totally see myself doing this to jorn in the future. but it feels like it would be nagging to actually ask for help. the obvious solution is for jorn to become more observant. not for me to be less of a psycho. oh, no, not at all.

Comments

[sleepyworm.livejournal.com]

boy, you had better get all nervous, because I'm about to comment!

Seriously, though, I'm going to tell you this one more time: TELL ME WHEN YOU WANT ME TO HELP OUT. I am in my own little world over here, and sometimes I notice when you're doing something I can help with, and sometimes I don't because I'm reading something really engrossing or whatever.

And sometimes you're doing something like clipping coupons (as mentioned above), and that's totally your thing. You profess to enjoy doing that, and far be it from me to try to take over doing something you enjoy. :)

So, NEXT TIME COME GET ME. dat iz all.

[supercheesegirl.livejournal.com]

just a clarification on the coupon-clipping--when i read the paper on sunday morning, when it's supposed to be read, while i'm eating my little breakfast, i'm relaxing and enjoying myself. if for whatever reason i can't read the paper on sunday morning or afternoon, it then gets added to my "to do" list, because i'm not going to waste a perfectly good newspaper not to mention the coupons just because i don't have time to take care of it. so it becomes just another thing i have to get done. which is why i included it on the above list--not because it's something you could've helped with, but because it was something i had to get finished.

[painkiller.livejournal.com]

When in doubt, a few subtle gestures with an aluminum baseball bat always seems to convery the correct message no matter what it is. SHAPE UP OR SHIP OUT, JORN! =-)

[velvetwaltz.livejournal.com]

rox, im totally with you on the mom thing. ive been seeing my mom in me more and more the past few years. its really scary.
and im with you on the chore thing too. i had that problem with most of my roommates. especially with jp when we first moved in. i think its like jorn said, he just didnt realize. and we just have to learn to ask sometimes. but you shouldnt have to ask all the time. if they really care about you, theyll make an effort to surprise you by doing the work without even a hint (HINT, HINT, jorn). and you know what, jp did just that.