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Just found out that the college campus where we want to have our wedding is entirely booked for June next year. We really wanted June. The campus is an arboretum! It's pretty and fragrant in June!
The first thing that goes through my head is that this is entirely MY fault. I'm the one who didn't want to set a date yet. We knew as of May 9 (the day F and I took our parents there) that that's where we wanted to have the wedding, but I didn't want the stress of trying to set a date yet. I got sick the next week, and then we were out of town for two weekends. I should have SUCKED IT UP! I should have listened to my mother and made an appointment with the event coordinator right away! We're going to get stuck having it in July, which will be hot and sticky and also too close to my birthday, or August, which will be even more hot and sticky. Aunt Rita will die of heat stroke, and it will all be MY FAULT. Or we could have it in OCTOBER of next year. But I don't want to wait until October of NEXT YEAR to get married! I am so sick of waiting in this relationship! I want to be married to F right goddamn now!
This is not a productive line of thinking. But I should have done this sooner! I am trying not to imagine that my entire wedding is ruined already.
F just texted me: "love you and can't wait to marry you. doesn't matter what month or day!"
Now I'm really, really going to cry.
The first thing that goes through my head is that this is entirely MY fault. I'm the one who didn't want to set a date yet. We knew as of May 9 (the day F and I took our parents there) that that's where we wanted to have the wedding, but I didn't want the stress of trying to set a date yet. I got sick the next week, and then we were out of town for two weekends. I should have SUCKED IT UP! I should have listened to my mother and made an appointment with the event coordinator right away! We're going to get stuck having it in July, which will be hot and sticky and also too close to my birthday, or August, which will be even more hot and sticky. Aunt Rita will die of heat stroke, and it will all be MY FAULT. Or we could have it in OCTOBER of next year. But I don't want to wait until October of NEXT YEAR to get married! I am so sick of waiting in this relationship! I want to be married to F right goddamn now!
This is not a productive line of thinking. But I should have done this sooner! I am trying not to imagine that my entire wedding is ruined already.
F just texted me: "love you and can't wait to marry you. doesn't matter what month or day!"
Now I'm really, really going to cry.
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Date: 2009-06-08 09:12 pm (UTC)From:Love you, hon. <3<3
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Date: 2009-06-09 12:46 pm (UTC)From:Hush now
Date: 2009-06-08 09:21 pm (UTC)From:I've seen what happens when it's all about the perfect wedding. I still sometimes wake up screaming.
F is right, gods bless'im.
And you know what, fine, point me to Aunt Rita and I'll spend the whole ceremony holding a parasol over her head, alright?
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Date: 2009-06-08 10:45 pm (UTC)From:And you can just serve popsicles at the reception to counteract the heat.
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Date: 2009-06-09 12:49 pm (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2009-06-08 10:53 pm (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2009-06-09 12:54 am (UTC)From:here are some ideas, if you are feeling up to ideas:
1) look around and try to find a venue that has a similar vibe to that one.
2) ask that venue what they've seen other middle-of-summer couples do for a wedding in the middle of summer, cause venues really do see everything when it comes to weddings. (ie, renting tents or fans, programs that fan out and then can act as fans for guests--a friend of mine did this, if you're interested i can explain better:) I think you can order bottles of water with "bride and groom names, date of wedding", have the ushers hand them (or regular bottles of water)out as they seat people, or have each seat get a bottle of water on it before guests show up--might be a cute kinda "favor" (you can always do another, more formal favor, if you feel like it).
3) another friend of mine rented a snow cone machine for her wedding, if you grab some regular flavorings and then maybe a vodka or two, and put a little pump thing on them, it's way refreshing)!
also, be kind to yourself. you're sick and you've been traveling!
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Date: 2009-06-09 01:12 pm (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2009-06-09 05:46 pm (UTC)From:How to describe how it worked?
*Imagine an 8 1/2 by 11 piece of paper in front of you.
*Turn it sideways so that the one of the 11 sides is facing down.
*Cut the paper into columns (4 or 5).
*Each column would be printed with a different part of your program, and all pages could be stamped/printed with embellisments.
*Pile the columns on top of each other.
*Holding them at the bottom, fan out the tops of the pages (i think she used some kind of pin to hold them together at the bottom. or you could use a pretty ribbon with a bead, or something; didn't you get together in Key West? you could string a seashell on there).
And there you have an instant program/fan. Looks cool, and useful:)
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Date: 2009-06-09 02:56 am (UTC)From:We had to completely change the under tree layout of the service the morning of in order to avoid having big yellow contruction vehicles in the back ground of all the pictures. The new placement worked out even better; everyone was under the shade and Jon and I were beautifully encased in the low hanging willow branches instead of up against the trunk. Jon calls it our victory over the evil constructicons!
It doesn't always turn out like you planned, sometimes it's better.
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Date: 2009-06-09 01:14 pm (UTC)From:Triumphing over big yellow construction vehicles must have been awesome--really really stressful that day, but awesome. Good for you!
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Date: 2009-06-10 04:45 pm (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2009-06-10 05:50 pm (UTC)From: